Why It’s Okay To Unfollow

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So this week I was scrolling through my feed and saw a pretty passive aggressive sub tweet from a gal I know. She was speaking about unfollowing, about people putting their 'downer of a life' all over their social media feeds and 'begging for attention'. Slightly intrigued, and slightly 'Holy Shit - is she talking about me???' I took my trackpad and hovered over her annoyingly circular twitter avatar. Those little 'Follows You' words weren't there.

I was upset.

I mean I'd met this girl, we'd giggled over free Champagne at a blogging event, we'd talked in-depth about the swatch-ability of a highlight palette, we'd half heartedly made plans to shoot together and get brunch. We'd made plans to navigate that line from Twitter buds, you know the type that retweet your content, like your funniest tweets and give you shout outs on insta when you're feeling low, to actual friends. You know the ones that grab lunch on Saturdays, and get happy hour Pornstar Martinis at Be At One and don't laugh when you run for the bus and your skirt blows up to reveal THOSE pants to everyone on The Kings Road.

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BLOGGING FRIENDSHIPS - ARE THEY LEGIT?

I mean that's the question that's been asked COUNTLESS times. I think it's all about the degree of the chat, if I send you screenshots of my Tinder dates, tell you who I'm hoping asks me on a date like pronto and talk to you about stuff that y'know isn't blogging related? If we have a Whatsapp chat when I'm drunk and I pay you all of the compliments, sorry to break it to you, but we're BUDS. (Hint I'm looking at you Rhianna Olivia, Dorkface and Fordtography)

I think Blogging friendships can be slightly intensified, because discovering someone in real life who is involved in this whole world is incredibly liberating. I'm the girl that deals with the kindest sorts of eye rolls from my best friends and from pretty much every guy I've ever dated when I stand up over the brunch table to take an orchestrated flatlay. When I meet someone in real life who I can tell about this hella cool new VSCO filter I just found, or that I just found an absolute gem of a shop for flatlay accessories, or a new way to edit insta-stories - it's like my world has been opened up to someone that loves my passion as much as I do, and that's exciting.

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TELL YOUR STORY

At the end of the day, I'm going to make the way that I share content my own, it's my story and how I present myself on Twitter, Instagram and my Blog is how I choose to tell my story to the world. It's no secret that I'm basically the meaning of hashtag relatable My instastories will always be full of me wearing a facemask that probs makes me look slightly like a cookie monster. My Twitter will always document one night stands, shit about sex and vaginas and eating enough Chinese food for 53627538715 people in one sitting while I watch Pretty Little Liars and Love Island because that's just the kinda gal I am. If someone chooses to unfollow me for that reason, that's completely fine and I would never wish ill on anyone that made that decision.

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SHARING THE LOWS WITH THE HIGHS

So I have always wanted my feed to be above all else, authentic. As of late, it's not going to be full of cute flowers, happy selfies and babin' outfits, because that would just be so inauthentic to both myself, my grieving  process and my journey. I love to follow people that are heartbreakingly honest about their lives, their happiness and their struggles, and that is who I will surround my feed with.

INSPIRATIONAL VS HASHTAG RELATABLE

I mean we all do it right? We all clear out our feeds, we all think - hey why am I following this person again? And we clear out. There's no shame in it at all, it all happens for a reason and at the end of the day - it's only social media. I want my feed to be a place I can escape from my day, I want to look at people who document all ends of the spectrum, and not just the lavish designer bags, private planes and lookbooks of their island holidays bc I'll be honest, when I'm sitting on the District line after a long day of the 9-5 it makes me feel a bit inferior yaknow?

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So be you. Unfollow, follow, post content and be as true to yourself as you want your story to be. Don't take offence because someone decided that story wasn't what they wanted to see in their downtime, after all it's not about you, it's about what they want their feed to be. And that's okay.

These photos are by the GORGE Fordtography who will photograph you and make you feel a million dollars for less money than you'd think.